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In The Name Of Your Daughter (An #EndFGM Film About Safe Houses)

October 6, 2018

The Raindance Film Festival is an important event in the London arts diary.  Yesterday (5 October 2018) we saw one of this year’s featured films: In The Name Of Your Daughter, a documentary about saving young girls from female genital mutilation (FGM) via a ‘safe house’, a place to which likely victims of this crime can flee, or are taken, for protection during the ‘cutting season’. Especially important here is how trust and understanding about FGM must be established to rebuild connection between these girls and their families and communities. Be sure to see it.

The film showing was followed by a discussion between Giselle Portenier  (the award-winning film producer / director), Rhobi Samwelly (the formidable creator and director of the ‘safe house’ programme, now leading the Hope for Women and Girls Tanzania project in the Mara region), Hoda Ali (an FGM survivor, nurse and leading London-based EndFGM campaigner) and the audience. There was much praise for the film and much to talk about.

Giselle Portenier told us she had wanted to make a film about FGM for many years, but was always holding back because she knew it should not be a film about desperation.  The ‘safe house’ story gave her the perspective she needed – one of hope for the future. Giselle said it took her three years to plan and produce the film;  and when the production team was ready, she needed very rapidly to build trust and collaborations with the ‘real people’, some of them very young, who now populate the film.

(As an aside, I understand Giselle’s reservations about sharing only tales of doom; the same concern was what led me to insist that my book Female Mutilation carried many first hand accounts from those working to end FGM, along with the vitally important narratives of survivors from around the world.)

Then, in her commentary, Hoda Ali (left), now a school based FGM educator, was rightly insistent that more must be done, both in the UK and elsewhere, to bring FGM to an end.  How, she demanded, can anyone think this is not an urgent and vital matter?

The ‘safe house’ concept
Rhobi Samwelly spoke about how she continues against the odds to develop the safe house concept to protect girls at risk of FGM.  Of particular interest to me was the use of modern technology (mobile / cell phones), with at-risk girls in the safe house recording messages for their parents to say they wanted to come back home if the parents undertook (in writing) never to harm them with FGM.  The film records Rhobi, with attendant armed police officers and other authorities, showing parents these videod pleas, and then how the parents responded.

Reconciliation of girls and their parents is the aim, but it is more likely in families where one parent already opposes FGM.  Family reunion is however not always possible even with the serious threat of imprisonment for anyone who commits that crime: the film illustrates directly how some parents defy Tanzanian laws against FGM, seeking rather to gain more cattle when their ‘cut’ (and therefore more financially ‘valuable’) daughter is sold in early ‘marriage’ – which, Rhobi makes it very clear to those concerned, is a traditional perspective now completely unacceptable.

Girls need safekeeping, nurturing and education, just like their brothers.  But in some ways the situation is becoming more, rather then less, challenging.  In Tanzania the cutting season is the last few weeks of the year, when the harvest comes in; but because the authorities are now alert to the dangers at this time, FGM is being brought forward to earlier in the season – even October – and done under cover of night.  Only the boys are circumcised in daylight ceremonies or, as now recommended in the Mara region to reduce risk, in hospital.

(For those who ask, the issue of male circumcision is also acknowledged and touched on lightly, albeit male circumcision, MGM, is not legally proscribed in Tanzania. Watch the film and this video clip to see how difficult this all is…. maybe one step at a time ….?)

18.10.05 FGM . In The Name Of Your Daughter (22)For me, as an observer watching In The Name Of Your Daughter, one question comes to the fore:  what about the economics of FGM, where’s the money?  The film makes it clear that many in FGM practising communities depend for income on revenue from the FGM ‘festivities’; and this aspect is also considered here.

Given that even in wealthy countries such as the UK we see women’s refuges disappearing,* how does Rhobi find the funds to continue her work?  How can it be extended, when, as we learn in the film, many more girls still undergo FGM than manage to find a safe house?  Giselle told us that the problem of funding is huge.  Rhobi now runs two new safe houses, both in rented accommodation and seriously in need of more funding.
*There are no FGM refuges for girls to run to in the UK – just a phone line: 0800 028 3550 but no nation-wide, coordinated cross-local authority care.

Anyone wishing to support Rhobi’s work can donate via this webpage.

Tradition and choice
So there we have it.  A millennia-old harmful tradition is still defended, even demanded, by some people who have access to modern technologies such as mobile phones, whilst these technologies are also crucial in combatting this abuse. Modern, highly trained state officials are working with people in remote communities to protect their daughters and, as Rhobi points out, thereby also to enhance the economic contribution that these girls, as young women, will be able to make to their communities and country.

Indeed, one striking element to come through in the film is the extent of agency and autonomy which very young girls, even aged just five, may exhibit.  Some are simply kidnapped or forced to undergo FGM, but others have a choice of sorts, unlike the girls who have FGM and die from it, their bodies abandoned in the wild.  Girls may be threatened with dreadful fates if they refuse to be cut, but sometimes they still of their own free will withhold consent. These are heart-breaking decisions – my body uncut, or my mother? – no child should ever have to make, but make them some must.

Inevitably, some parents simply go ahead and force their daughter into submission – remember, a cut ‘bride’ (aged, say, ten) is ‘worth’ about twice as many bride price cows as an uncut one – but other parents, it seems, do not insist.  The cost to the child can however be extreme. Having failed to secure a return on her father’s ‘investment’ in raising her for bride price, a girl may be disowned and uncared for, her future is uncertain. She is on her own unless the safe house, and a decent education, comes to the rescue.

How this dreadful price for ‘choice’ plays out for dissenters over time remains to be seen.  One factor in the outcome is who leads the community, and what he personally thinks.  Girls refusing FGM may force communities to look more closely at the harmful traditional practice of FGM; or perhaps not, if community leaderships knowingly continue to break the law in support of age-old practices.

There are complexities and challenges at every level, but slowly the message is being delivered.  Those young girls reunited with their families have learned the lesson of their teachers (and the ITNOYD badge): UJASIRI in Swahili translates into English as Courage!

These girls return to their homes unscathed and determined that the ancient tradition of FGM must end.  And so, with the work of Rhobi, Giselle, Hoda and others, it will.

Your Comments on this topic are welcome. 
Please post them in the box which follows these announcements…..

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Books by Hilary Burrage on female genital mutilation

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Eradicating Female Genital Mutilation: A UK Perspective (Hilary Burrage, Ashgate / Routledge 2015).
Full contents and reviews   HERE.
FEMALE MUTILATION: The truth behind the horrifying global practice of female genital mutilation  (Hilary Burrage, New Holland Publishers 2016).
Full contents and reviews   HERE.


There is a free FGM hotline for anyone in the UK: 0800 028 3550, or

Details of NHS Specialist Services for FGM here.

More info and posts on FGM here.

Activists, service providers and researchers may like to join the LinkedIn group Female Genital Mutilation (FGM): Information, reports and research, which has several hundred members from around the world.

The (free) #NoFGM Daily News carries reports of all items shared on Twitter that day about FGM – brings many organisations and developments into focus.

Also available to follow at no cost or obligation is the #NoFGM_USA Daily News.

Twitter accounts:          @NoFGM_UK  @NoFGMBookUK @FemaleMutlnBook  @FGMStatement  @NoFGM_USA @NoFGM_Kenya  @NoFGM_France  @GuardianEndFGM [tag for all: #NoFGM] and @StopMGM.

Facebook page: #NoFGM – a crime against humanity

Email contact: via Hilary


[NB The Inter-African Committee on Traditional Practices Affecting the Health of Women and Children, which has a primary focus on FGM, is clear that in formal discourse any term other than ‘mutilation’ concedes damagingly to the cultural relativists – though the terms employed may of necessity vary in informal discussion with those who by tradition use alternative vocabulary. See the Feminist Statement on the Naming and Abolition of Female Genital Mutilation,  The Bamako Declaration: Female Genital Mutilation Terminology and the debate about Anthr/Apologists on this website.]


This article concerns approaches to the eradication specifically of FGM.  I am also categorically opposed to MGM, but that is not the main focus of this particular piece.

Anyone wishing to offer additional comment on more general considerations around infant and juvenile genital mutilation is asked please to do so via these relevant dedicated threads; or, if relating to this particular piece, please connect your comments with the wider considerations of FGM as well.

Discussion of the general issues re M/FGM will not be published unless they are posted on the dedicated pages as above. Thanks.

2 Comments leave one →
  1. magicwoman786 permalink
    March 21, 2019 02:42

    Hi Hilary! I’m going to see this film tomorrow (Thursday) in New York City. Giselle Portenier and I have become friends and I look forward to meeting her and going out to dinner with her after the screening. I can’t wait to see this! How are you doing? I miss your visits to NY. Sayydah xoxo

    Sent from Yahoo Mail for iPad

    • March 21, 2019 22:34

      So glad to hear this, Sayydah! and delighted that my friends are joining up in these ways.
      Do hope we can catch up again before too long. Lots of luck to you both x

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